Proverbs 15:20-21 A wise son maketh a glad father: but a foolish man despiseth his mother. Folly is joy to him that is destitute of wisdom: but a man of understanding walketh uprightly.
One of the privileges of a Pastor is being with a family at the birth of their child. The smiles and joy this new birth brings is almost indescribable. The innocence of a child and dependence on the parents brings an instant bond between them. Nevertheless, part of the struggles of being a Pastor is helping a family cope as children make wrong life choices. All the joy and togetherness seem to vanish. Sorrow and grief are left in its place. This often happens as children become young adults and want to be on their own. The love for them is still there, but the question of “why,” starts popping up.
Some question why God allows a child to do such things. A child they worked so hard with, and tried to raise right. Why is a loving God allowing them to turn out so wrong? Parents will blame themselves for their children’s sins. Some begin to blame God. The truth is, each child created by God and placed in your care was created with a free will to choose what he or she would do. It’s not always the parent’s fault, and definitely not God’s fault. Sometimes both God and parents have tried to give them the wisdom they need and they refuse it. They must choose to accept the wisdom of knowing God personally and walking with Him on a daily basis. Without that wisdom, the sins or folly of the world seem as joy to them. This is when a family needs the comforting counsel of the church family and guidance of the Holy Spirit.
So what now? Well, never give up. At any age, they’re still your children. Never quit praying and asking your church to join you in prayer for them. Lastly, be a loving example of Christ before them. Remember they have to choose to live for God. You can’t choose for them.
Isn’t God still able?
Living In His Word Ministries
“Getting people into the Word of God…
… and the Word of God into people.”
Dr. Franklin J. Senters Th.D.
Founder and Executive Director