Proverbs 10:5-9 He that gathereth in summer is a wise son: but he that sleepeth in harvest is a son that causeth shame. Blessings are upon the head of the just: but violence covereth the mouth of the wicked. The memory of the just is blessed: but the name of the wicked shall rot. The wise in heart will receive commandments: but a prating fool shall fall. He that walketh uprightly walketh surely: but he that perverteth his ways shall be known.
Nothing’s harder than trying to help a person, who doesn’t want help. I heard of a man who dove into really cold water trying to save a drowning man. When he reached the man to help him, the man started fighting, and pushing him away. The victim had been in the cold water fighting for life so long, the exhaustion, and cold caused him to begin hallucinating. He imagined something or someone was out to get him, when in reality there was someone there to save him.
As our verses today say, “The wise in heart will receive commandments: but a prating fool shall fall.” Sometimes people can be like that drowning person. When you reach out to try to help, and give them any type of constructive criticism at all, instead of learning and growing, they lash out with hurtful ,and terrible accusations against you. They have been fighting life so long, they imagine everyone is out to get them.
The Bible tells us to reach out to the hurting. However, there also comes a time when you need to step back, and wait until they are at a place where help will be accepted. The drowning victim mentioned before soon quit fighting; he simply could not fight anymore due to sheer exhaustion. The rescuer then easily took him to safety. Later the rescued victim thanked him for what he had done.
There is an old saying; “You can’t help someone who does not want help.” As I’ve grown older, and have been kicked many times by those I was trying to help, I see now that my parents, and the Bible are right. Sometimes you need to let a person struggle until they are ready to be helped. Yet, always be ready and willing to help.
THE WORD WALKING IN ME:
Does this mean we are to give up on people? NO WAY! While waiting for them to want help, pray for them with all your heart. Pray God will make a way. Then be there when He does.
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2 Samuel 23 – 1 Kings 1 / Proverbs 10:5-9
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Judges 16-18 / Luke 13:18-35
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